Sand ceremonies, that is. So many of my great NJ wedding ceremonies (smooth, eh?) include stories about couples who met on the beach, love the beach, got engaged on the beach; some of them even get married on the beach. What better way to include these magnificent backdrops in the ceremony itself!
When I write a sand ceremony element, I usually talk about the notion that each partner (and this works especially well when one or both of the partners has children) brings their own individual gifts to the relationship. Each one has dreams, accomplishments, experiences that are theirs alone, but when combined, their histories and futures cannot help to be changed forever. They never lose their identities, but their lives are enriched when blended with the lives of those they love.
This ritual is an especially moving visual reminder of the delicate balance of separate lives coming together to form something entirely new. Here is part of a script that I used for a recent wedding ceremony that included the groom’s son.